First Date Do's and Don'ts

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Can You Believe This MindSet?

This story originates from my first three years in the working world. I was working in a small town store that sold stereos, television sets, pianos, organs, and appliances. I had been married quite recently and could not afford to do much after work. The staff was quite small, only five people on the upstairs floor and two in the service shop downstairs. The service people seldom interacted with staff socially. The sales staff consisted of myself, my boss, and an experienced sales lady. The other two staff were primarily bookkeepers, but they were involved in taking cash as well as customer credit applications. One of the bookkeepers was in her 70's. She was an aged spinster and the boss kept her employed for sentimental reasons. She had been with the store for 35 years after all. The other bookkeeper was at the other end of the age spectrum. She was barely twenty, and this was her first full time gig since leaving school. (She did a lot of the routine work under the direction of the more senior staff member. She did most of the routine work under the direction of the older lady. The senior person dealt with paying invoices from our wholesalers, and in payment delinquencies from customers. She did most of the details of bookkeeping under the day to day direction of the older lady. To say there was friction between them was an understatement, but that might be another story to tell some day.

The store was closed Sundays back then, so it was tradition every Monday morning to get together and regale each other with what we did on the weekend.  Since I was recently married and cash was tight, my wife and I mostly just hung out with friends. I was told the old lady spent most of her Saturday night and Sunday after church drinking scotch. The other person in sales was a woman in her 50's who spent her weekends with grown children and grandchildren on family activities. The boss never come in until 10:00 AM which is why we were able to shoot the breeze every Monday from 9:00 till 9:30 or so.

Now Cathy, the junior accounting clerk, was in a class of her own. She spent nearly every weekend frequenting the local pubs with her girlfriends. They would move from club to club in a pack looking for fun. Ultimately, they were all looking for the man of their dreams to marry. Because all of the rest of us could only talk about the same stuff we talked about last week, invariably, the conversation on Monday tended to center on Cathy's latest exploits. She had a way of dramatizing the mundane, so if nothing else, her stories were more interesting than – 'I cooked dinner for my family'. She was not ugly, but not exactly the prettiest girl in the world either, so her trials and vexations were many. But from my perspective, her biggest problem was her attitude. This is best typified by the following story.

One particular Monday, Cathy was talking about her Saturday night. She had several single friends that she went around with on her weekly jaunts. She complained that she never got to dance a single dance on Saturday night, and that the whole evening was a bust. She mentioned that this guy had come up to their table just as they got there, and had asked one of her friends to dance and was turned down. He then proceeded to ask each of the other girls, who all turned him down. Over the next hour, she had watched him ask other girls in the club, who all turned him down, so he left. She then laughed at how stupid he was to be so persistent.  I was curious why she thought it was stupid so I asked her.

She said that once one girl at her table had turned him down, if any of them would have said yes, they would have looked like they were picking up the leavings of the first girl who turned him down. Thus losing face I guess. Not sure if I fully understood I asked her to tell me more.  She said that after being turned down by all the women at our table, he then proceeded to ask other women at other tables, and they of course had to turn him down too. When I asked why, she said that they would have been worried about looking needy by picking up someone that someone else had turned down.

In an effort to truly understand what to me was a twisted point of view, I asked her some more questions. I asked her what was wrong with him. Did he look like an ape or something? She said that he was actually quite good looking, and she had been hoping for weeks that he would ask her to dance. So I asked if she knew the reason the first girl had turned him down for if he was such a catch. She said that they had just gotten there, and that that she did not feel like dancing yet. So I asked Cathy if the guy would have asked her first, would she have danced with him. She said of course she would have.  I was struggling now to hold in the laughter as she continued to amaze me with the twists and turns of her strange reasoning.

At this juncture, I summarized my understanding to make sure I had not missed anything. I said, you knew that your friend had turned him down not because she was not interested, but because she was tired. She agreed with that. But he did ask you and you turned him down, and then had a crappy Saturday night because nobody else asked you to dance. She said yes, that's just the way it goes sometimes.

By now, I was feeling that I should show her the errors of her ways, so I asked a few more questions. I asked her to think like a guy for a bit and tell me which of the people she would have approached first if she was a guy. She said she would have asked the girl that he asked first because she was cuter. But then she proceeded to say that the cuter girl did not have as good a personality as she did. So I asked her if she had ever had any sort of discussion with the guy before, and she said she had not. So I asked her how was he ever to know that she had a better personality if she did not talk to him when she had the opportunity. She looked at me like I was mentally deficient or something. She said, “I already told you that I couldn't! Weren't you listening”? I gave up at that point.

A couple of weeks later, I noticed that Cathy was not her usual perky self. I talked to her a bit and got her to open up as to what her problem was. She said that the guy that she had turned down to dance had shown up with a new girlfriend, and said the the girl was not even pretty. I said, too bad you messed up your chance. Once again, she looked at me like I was some neanderthal from the ice age. “I told you I could not say yes to him. How many times do I have to repeat myself!”, she said.  About a year later, Cathy was moping around the office for a couple of months. One of her girlfriends told me that they guy she really liked had married that girl. She never had actually talked to the guy.

I did not stay at that store much longer. I found a much better paying job with a more stable future elsewhere in the city. I stayed on long enough to train my replacement, and would run into him from time to time. He stayed on a decade before leaving as well. When he left, Cathy was still there, still single, and still wandering the bars looking for Mr. Goodbar.

I guess she never changed!


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Advice for Men

If You Want More Sex, Treat Your Woman to an Orgasm

In Victorian times, many adult women did not have orgasms. In actuality, a lot of them had no idea what an orgasm was.  Many women were raised with no sexual instruction, and sometimes with negative messages about their bodies, and their sexuality. A twin study done in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and only one in ten always orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.

Now the question is how do we change all this, especially since almost all modern women desire orgasms. Lets start by defining a female orgasm.  An orgasm in women is much like what men experience-there is a peak of sexual excitement, in a moment of intense pleasure, and a pulsing, twitchy sensation that extends throughout the body.  Rythmiccontractions take place within the pelvic area including the walls of the vagina. Another difference here is that women don't experience a refractory period, and will usually be able to have many more orgasms with ongoing coital stimulation, often within a minute or two. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm.  This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.

With the help of a skilled lover, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they so desire.

Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:

1) They 2)A situation charged with romance
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Being at ease
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy

You will unlikely simulate your female partner to orgasm without most of the previous conditions being met.

Men need to know that women generally have several variations of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm.  The clitoris is a woman's main sexual pleasure point and can be stimulated orally or with the fingers. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and climaxes in uterus contractions . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is a little harder to find: it is located on the upper side of the vagina – about one half way in. In most women the G-spot is about 3 inches into the vagina, and on the top side.  Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet.  It is a softer area that is about one half centimeter in size. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman.  When located, and stimulated, the G spot can result in an orgasm within the vaginal walls.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:

In summation, an orgasm is something very sensual that will provide both partners with incredible feelings of pleasure. The next list is a summary that can help both of you have orgasms regularly:

1) 2)Be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Use your tongue and lips to stimulate and gently suckle her breasts
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Talk to your partner, find out what she likes
6) Women like you to tease them sexually – touch and withdraw many times. This will intensify the orgasm and the pleasure for both of you.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Do not push to try new things – experimentation must be mutual or else it will cause you to lose the moment

Men should read and practice the techniques in this guide, because more female orgasms are the keys to the kingdom of much more sex.

If you are an unsatisfied woman – persuade your partner to read this article, after all, your entire future is at stake!

Good Luck!

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Sex For Animals

Sometimes we humans worry about our sexual kinks. If anything makes humans unique, it is thinking about sex. The other 87 million species do not give it much of a thought. They react to it, but they do not think about it. There was recently a news story about a man who had been married over fifty years, and never told his wife about his cross-dressing while she was out shopping. Fifty years and he still couldn’t tell her! We need to be more open with our lovers as to our sexual inclinations and kinks. It is part of what defines us as a person. It is like the color of your eyes or your height. You did not set out to be that way, so why be embarrassed about it. Life would be a lot simpler but a lot more mundane if we all liked the same things. Unemployment would also be rampant, because three quarters of the products on the market would no longer have consumers. Vive la difference!

If you have not revealed all of your sexual wants and needs to your partner, then take a look at the weird behaviors of some animals to realize that your needs are not so weird after all. Here are some weird things that other species do during sexual intercourse. If God is okay with them doing it, then he must certainly be okay with you doing it!


Macaque

You may think that you are a creep for sitting in perverts row at a strip club, but you are not. In the animal kingdom, the Japanese Macaque will give a female of his species fruit and other rewards to see her naked hiny. They also are pretty ruthless characters – attacking other macaques while they are in the midst of their orgasmic bliss. Crazy monkeys!

Honey Bees

There is no telling what might turn a guy on. Tattooing, piercing, torture devices trying to get a longer dick. Self abuse, being bitten, pulling, twisting and squeezing are common as well. A lot of guys are embarrassed by this, and go to a professional dominatrix behind their partner’s backs. They should thank their lucky stars that they are not honey bees! Honeybee males, in the act of reproduction, have their male parts explode and fall off. These poor saps only have one shot in their entire lifetime!

Barnacle

Most lesser endowed guys have looked wistfully at the penis pump ads in the back pages of many men's magazines. The idea is that you regularly inflate the cock and it will grow in size, eventually giving the man a larger penis. But guys are worried that women will see it in the back of their closet. Well, consider gentlemen, the barnacle. It inflates its junk up to fifty times the size of its entire body! And the females don’t mind at all!

Sea Hare

Some guys think about nothing else but being part of a threesome, foursome, or an even larger orgy. Most guys never realize this dream because they are too timid to admit to their partners that they would like to get into a swinging lifestyle. Now the sea hare does not have this problem. These slug like sea creatures get into huge mating chains, with so many in the chain that they actually end up forming a sex circle (of course if they were all males, this would be the perfect example of a circle jerk – LOL).

Giraffes

With all the free porn sites out there, more and more men have been exposed to some really weird stuff like golden showers (people peeing on each other). This is a tricky one to bring up with your lady, unless you’re taking a shower together and claim it was an accident. Male giraffes LOVE getting pissed on – it’s how they know if the female is ready for some lovin’! They get their face covered in urine and then mount their woman, alight with desire.


Long story short – talk to your partner and be honest about what you’re interested in. Maybe they’ve been interested in the same thing too, and you can both try it out together. Just remember to always be safe and have fun!


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What Lesbians Are Looking For

 For a lot of lesbians, finding the love of your life can be as easy as googling for lesbian dating sites (or even some more general purpose online dating sites) and creating an accurate profile that is fun and friendly, and then just sit back and read the emails that will start to trickle in for the next few days. Sounds easy right , well it is, but you should also continue taking your own pro-active steps to meet someone. So spend some time reading other profiles online, because not only might you find some really interesting females to connect to, but you could also get some good ideas of things that you could have put in your profile or different ways of phrasing your profile to make it more interesting. If someone's wording or ideas caught your eye, then similar wording or ideas might help your profile catch someone else's eye. A great number oflesbians are often exposed to different types of groups of people as they go about social, work or other events of importance in their lives. Any special event that attracts you will also attract like minded individuals, so you should always be on the lookout for someone with interests compatible to  yours.

 A common mistake that a lot of lesbians make when having their first relationship is rushing into things too quickly. Before you end up waking up next to a person that you barely know. Go out on a few outings first, get to know each other to find out if you have anything in common. You should have some common interests, values and plans for the future that will mesh well. Share things with each other, if you get a new job, if a family member has a baby, a wedding coming up, a commendation you might have gotten, share these things with you partner, you should not only think of them as your lover but also your best friend.

If you are at a family gathering or with friends and someone starts telling gay and lesbian jokes that are in bad taste and insulting to you and your partner, and you see your partner isdisgusted by it, just get up and leave, tell them you came to enjoy yourselves not to listen to a lot of trash about how other people live their lives|One awkward situation would be to find yourselves at a social or family gathering and hear people dissing the gay and lesbian community at large. This will require you to make a stand and let people know that you will not tolerate statements of that nature. Insult them if you have to. If your family and friends are aware of your sexual preference then tell them that you are not at all amused at what was said, and if the attitude persists that you will have to find other people to hang out with. You will love who you want and you don't care what anybody else thinks or says.

Introduce your partner to your friends and family and involve them in everything that you do. This is an important step to establishing and keeping a relationship.

Being one of God's chosen people, at least when it comes to aids, lesbians are just so lucky that their partner fully gets what it takes to satisfy them sexually. When one woman is making love to another woman each just naturally knows which enjoyment buttons to press for each other.  Gay men have a similar advantage, but the aids specter spoils the fun a lot.  Sex is the one area where a lesbian or gay relationship just runs circles around the hetero types.

The lesbian life is the best that there is, so love your life and live it to the max. Live, love and share your life with others, and surround yourself with friends and family who will be there for you in both good times and bad.

 Just remember people are always a little uneasy about things they really don't know a lot about so ensure that you at least surround yourself with friends and family who have a positive attitude to both you, your sexuality, and your situation.  Since you are lesbians, then you will likely be most comfortable with lesbian friends. Open minded heterosexual friends are tough to find, so if you have a few, cherish them and nurture them.

Just remember that after God created Adam and Eve, she realized her mistake and gave Eve a lesbian friend to keep her happy.  Adam was such a domineering sexual schmuck after all.



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Dating Sites For Seniors

Finding yourself single again after what seems like a life time of marriage and being over 50 can feel like falling down the proverbial well. At least half of women over the age of 60 live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating has certainly changed a lot in the past 30 years or so. It is not that unusual to see grandmothers perusing the offerings in a sex shop. Older men are often so confused that they don't know if they should open a door, pull a chair out, or pay for the whole dinner and movie.

Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, like our perfect eye site, is slowly fading away. Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship.  Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. People tend to be a bit more set in their ways and comfortable with their life styles when they are in their 50's and beyond. This makes it much more difficult to find someone compatible than when you are in your more flexible 20's. If you are looking to find someone who just meshes with you and your lifestyle, the odds are severely against you. If you intend to find a new life partner, then you must be prepared to do a few changes. These do not have to be radical, but you do need to do some things differently. Personally, I always hated golf, but I took it up so that I would have a better chance of finding someone – and hey, I grew to like it, so it was not a waste.

First dates with the over 50 crowd are always an interesting experience. You never know what to expect. You will get sophisticated to boorish, and every flavor in between. Most will not go to a second date simply because the chemistry is not right. You will often have to sit through a stressful evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife,  ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their hemorrhoids are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.

And its just as discouraging for the men.  Men will often talk about women trying to finagle their way into their lives very quickly, and then start to manipulate them to change their life styles to suit the woman's. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.

Why is it that mature people have so many problems finding a compatible mate?  Life is purported to be simpler as you age. Too bad they can't say the same for senior dating. What is the cause of this phenomenon? It is not as if we are amateurs in the dating game! We know who we are and what we want. Why should it be so difficult? Could it be we have our standards set too high? I doubt it! Older people want the same things that the younger set are hoping to find in a relationship. They all want:

1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect

Why would that, in any way, be too much to ask for?

After discussing my problems with some of my closest friends. My friends suggested that I try one of the dozens of senior dating sites available online. I shied away from the topic and the idea of a dating site, but after some encouraging information from my friends, and after watching too many late movies by myself, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and looked for senior dating sites. My friends were right! There are dozens if not hundreds of them, my head was spinning.

It was a little confusing for me at first. I started having flashbacks of when I was a kid trying to choose a candy bar at the store. I explained this to my friends and one of them suggested a place to start. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.

She said that is how she met her boyfriend. And all this time I thought she met this wonderful man at work, what a shock. So I gave them a try, it was a cake walk I just entered my profile information, and the site did most of the rest of the work for me. It didn't take long before they had several men that were exactly what I have been looking for. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in years I am actually going out with exciting men and enjoying my self, life does get better with age.

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Finding The Male G-Spot

The male orgasm can be a complex experience, the major function of the male orgasm is the release of sperm, however some men do not ejaculate with orgasm. The female orgasm is however still a bit of a debate as to why it happens, some believe it is only to help the sperm along on their journey toward the egg (ovum).

 The majority of men are not at all familiar with their G-spot, some men don't realize that they have one. Most of you will be surprised to learn that the male prostate is in fact the equivalent to the women's G-spot. Not many people are acquainted with this fact. It is also easier to find the male G-spot. For some people it may seem abnormal to probe that area, but if you keep an open mind about it you could experience the best orgasms you could ever hope to have.

FINDING THE MALE G-SPOT

The male G-spot is not that troublesome to locate, however, it does require a bit of trial and error. It is located below the bladder and in front of the rectum. Lying on your back is on of the more comfortable and convenient ways to reach it, so you will most probably need to use a bed or a large couch. The process is less problematic if you have your legs elevated which you can do by having them hang over the back of the sofa or by leaning them against the wall behind the bed. Try putting a pillow under your posterior to make it easier to reach the right spot. For first timers take it slow and use a Vaseline. Then slowly insert a finger into the anus and probe gently, the prostrate gland has been reached when you come across the small lump the size of a chestnut that is roughly about two inches inward.

With your palm facing your partner's scrotum, insert your finger into your partner's anus, be sure your fingernails are not sharp, and be sure not to touch your own genital area with the same finger you used to penetrate your partners anus. Keep in mind that not all men like prostate stimulation just as some women love having their G-Spot massaged and others find it distracting. Once located and properly rubbed it will create an orgasm that is more powerful than they have ever had with regular sex.

Prostate milking as it is also called also enables the man to have multiple orgasms that are longer in duration and gives them the ability to ejaculate without being sexually aroused before hand. It has been noted that the orgasms achieved through prostrate milking can be 4 times more satisfying and can actually last up to five minutes. Male G-spot stimulation produces a full body orgasm.

POINTS TO PONDER
 Before you and your better half start playing with his G-Spot, it is a good idea to get as relaxed as possible. Some people will actually have a nice hot shower before they proceed. Use a finger to find and stimulate the G-spot if unsure or you are a beginner, there are sexual devices you can purchase that can enhance your experience as well. There are also different techniques that can be used. Having your partner perform oral sex while gently manipulating the G-spot is one option.

MISTAKEN BELIEFS

It has often been noted that for a man to stimulate his own G-spot is strange and perverse, which is why it is not done that often. Prostrate manipulation is as normal as having intercourse, it is not something to be hidden, and it is not gay. There is nothing  perverse about enjoying the pleasures of self stimulation. It has the power to create a very dynamic orgasm, and it is entirely normal to experiment with it.


“WARNING”

There are some risks associated with prostate milking if it is not done correctly|. Excessive pressure on the prostate gland can cause several problems such as transferring cancer, blood poisoning, infections, and hemorrhoids. The recommended pressure on the G-spot is comparable to the amount of pressure you would use to rub your eyes with.

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If You Want More Sex, Treat Your Woman to an Orgasm

A few generations ago, most adult ladies never experienced and orgasm. In fact, a lot of them did not understand what an orgasm was.  Many women were reared with no sexual instruction, and often made to believe that sex was a painful wifely duty. A twin study ending in 2005 found that one third of women did not (or seldom) orgasm, and only one in ten always orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm has as frustrating a life as a man with an erectile disfunction.

Now the question is how do we change all this, especially when most women now a days  want orgasms. Lets start by defining a female orgasm.  Woman experiencing an orgasm is similar to what men achieve-there is a surge of emotion, in a moment of incredible enjoyment, and a pulsing, electric sensation that spreads out through the body.  Rythmiccontractions take place within the pelvic area also encompassing the vaginal walls. One key difference is that women don't experience a refractory period, and may have multiple orgasms with continued clitoral stimulation, often within a minute or two. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm.  This is important for men to understand so that they understand that a woman can have a completely satisfying orgasm without ejaculating.

With the help of a skilled lover, most women can have multiple orgasms if they want.

Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:

1) Women  must feel appreciated, and wanted a romantic atmosphere
3) A person they click with
4) Being at ease
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy

You will unlikely simulate your female partner to orgasm without most of the previous conditions being met.

Men should understand that women generally have several variations of orgasms---the most common is orgasm of the clitoris.  The clitoris may be stimulated in a few ways, but the most common are oral stimulation or hand manipulation. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and climaxes in uterus contractions . Another type of orgasm is centered on the G-spot. The G spot is tougher to zero in on: it is located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone, and the front of the cervix. The majority of women will have the G spot a few inches inside the vagina, and on the top side.  Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet.  It is a softer area that is about one half centimeter in size. The size, and exact location vary.  When located, and stimulated, the G spot can result in an orgasm within the vaginal walls.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:




In summation, sex is something very sensual that will provide both partners with a wonderful rush of pleasurable feelings. The following can help your lady companion have orgasms regularly:

1) Women are touchy, feely people – use gentle stroking with your hands, lips and tongue.Do not be rough as the genital area is extremely sensitive – you may want to look into something like KY jelly to keep things moist, especially if you have leathery skin on your hands
3) Gently kiss her breasts to create excitement
4) Slow and easy is the only way to win this race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Women like you to tease them sexually – touch and withdraw many times. This will intensify the orgasm and the pleasure for both of you.
7) If she is dry – the most likely case at the beginning of sexual intercourse, use your own natural lubrication, or else use a lubricant like KY Jelly – if she is dry, sex will be painful and cause lasting damage.
8) Be careful not to over stimulate some parts of the body – too much manipulation of the nipples or clitoris can cause pain
9) Experiment so that sex does not get stale
10) Do not push to try new things – experimentation must be mutual or else it will cause you to lose the moment

Men should read and practice the techniques in this guide, because more female orgasms are the keys to the kingdom of much more sex.

If you are an unsatisfied woman – convince your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!

Good Luck!

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Chinese Dating

If two Chinese people are dating, they are well aware of Chinese cultural norms. However, when one of those people is not Chinese, conflicts are inevitable and need to be discussed upfront before they become an issue.

Here are a few good tips on dating and Chinese culture:

Chinese women come across as shy and reserved when dating. As such, it is culturally expected for the man to make the first move and exhibit a certain amount of dominance in the relationship. Men are expected to be in a lead role when it comes to relationships. This applies to both initial contact, and every step along the way.

When talking to a Chinese woman on a dating site, always be polite and show respect.

Also remember that, in China, health and salary are not considered to be private issues and are expected to be discussed openly and freely.

Most women in China marry at an early age and Chinese men find it a little strange for women to be in their thirty's and still single. Older single women are more likely to jump at a dating opportunity because they are normally shunned by Chinese men to some extent. Divorced women are usually shunned in Chinese society. Widowed women fare a bit better, but not by much. In any event, if you pay attention to widowed or divorced Chinese women on an online dating site, you will likely be very successful.

In China education is very important and Chinese men and women are usually more interested in the education level and degrees one might possess than most cultures are.

In the Chinese culture, women are taught to see security in financial stability. They will tend to marry success rather than looks.

Well educated Chinese people can often speak English to some degree. They are likely a lot better at reading and writing it than speaking it, especially if they are still living in China. When you do not use a language orally you cannot develop a good ear for distinguishing the words, nor do you get a chance to be fluent orally. Be ready to accept the fact that there will be more of a spoken language barrier than a written one.

It is also very common for people in China not to have a religion, as many years ago it was believed to be superstitious and many of the churches and temples were actually destroyed and religion was banned by Mao.

China is pretty much a male dominated society, so the man is expected to pay for everything on a date, this includes dinner, movies, theatre, snacks and, if needed, taxis.

Always try to be upfront and honest with your intentions as many Chinese people date with the soul purpose of finding a potential spouse, so to avoid any misconception it is wise to make your true intentions known right from the start.

Many Chinese people will avoid drinking alcohol, so it would be wise not to suggest stopping for a drink on your first date, instead it would be a better idea to suggest lunch or maybe a coffee or tea.

Do not have any expectations of mainland Chinese people showing up for a date on time. It is not in the culture..

Chinese people will show that they like you by offering to help you. You will find that they will feel obligated to help with dishes or even help with small bits of maintenance around the house. It is how they show affection.

You should also be aware that asking about one's health and taking care of someone when they are sick or feeling a little under the weather are two ways of showing how much you care about that person in China. Looking after what you eat, wear, and your health is not an attempt to run or control your life, this is the Chinese way of sharing their feelings in an indirect but very classy way.

Chinese are non-demonstrative in their love. They may be bonkers over you, but they would never be so crude as to actually say that out loud. Understatement of affection is the name of the game. They show affection more by actions than words.

Being more aware of Chinese versus Western cultural norms should help you when interacting with Chinese people in general, but especially so in a dating or relationship situation.

This article is geared to helping you make it past first base when dating a Chinese man or woman. Attentive and educated Chinese men and women would love to meet you so just follow the link below.

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The Next Decade in Online Dating

Modern Online Dating Survey Results:

Here is a summary of the results of a study about the online dating practices of urban dwellers. This was the culmination for interviewing just under 100 men and women about how they date online and what they look for in potential dates and partners. Online Dating Services may not result in you finding the love of your life, but it may be an interesting diversion from all those poorly directed eHarmony.com and Match.com TV commercials that try to convince you about how lonely you are during late night movies.

Some Dating Insights Gained:

1)     It is not uncommon for members of the online dating community to be members on various sites at the same time. The attitude is that the more exposure you give yourself to other people, the more likely it is that you will find a match. Sort of like buying several lottery tickets instead of just one. These same people are likely to be dating several different people concurrently hoping to find the one who clicks. Playing the field is a defence mechanism in the online arena. Because of the anonymity of the sites, you cannot tap into you normal social networks to find out about the people you are talking to online, or dating in real life. There is a much higher chance of being taken in by a smooth talker. It is also easy to give your heart away to a loser. Keeping several people “in process” at the same time helps you from “settling” on any one of them prematurely. Because of the anonymous nature of online dating sites, you cannot prescreen people through friends before meeting them. One way dating sites try to mitigate that is via chat and anonymous email, but even so, once you meet in real life for the first time, it has more of the hallmarks of a blind date that any other dating situation that you have found yourself in. With this high tendency not to hit it off on the first actual date, the online dating community tends to interact with more people at the same time, and as a consequence, they are more tolerant of people playing the field during the initial relationship phases.

2)     Online Dating is a visual media at best. If you do not post pictures or videos of yourself, especially in situations where you are having fun with others, you can expect little or no action.  Ladies about having less than average looks. If you do a good job of portraying yourself in both words and pictures of someone who loves to have fun, you will get positive results.  For both men and women, this is a marketing exercise – the key here is not to take a crappy looking big-nosed picture of yourself staring into your web-cam’s fish eye lens – everyone already knows that you stare at your computer a lot because you are on an online dating site in the first place.  There is no need to supply a picture of you in such an unflattering pose. The key is to portray an image of you as a person who has fun interacting with other people, animals, children, sports events, etc. If you are a woman, just remember that men see and assume – most do not read much, they look and evaluate visually for the most part, so keep the words to a minimum. If you are a man – pay attention to the words as best you can – look for the “must not be” things that many women pre-qualify their profiles with, and do not annoy them if you are a “must not be” person.  Women are generally strong communicators; hopefully having to read “likes long walks on the beach” for the umpteenth time will not make you lose your cookies.  In any event, for both genders, keep the profile text fun, factual and short. If you are lucky, you will find other people with similar interests and a complimentary sense of silliness. Be prepared to use the email and chatting facilities of the online site to get to know people better. Do not try to give your life story in the profile.  Your profile is a short teaser ad that highlights your benefits to catch someones eye. Do not pollute it with negative statements of past failures. You are trying to sell someone about who you are and where you want to go. You do not want to bore them with the history of your life, all your mistakes, and what you changed your mind about.

3)     Men without jobs have little or no traction on dating sites that are focused on long-term relationships. Women do not want to hang their hats on perceived losers. On the other hand, if you can connect with a woman physically, they will often overlook the fact that you are a bicycle courier, as long as you come across as trying to better yourself.  Keep your personal financial status out of the conversation if at all possible. If the person keeps insisting on focusing on that particular statistic, they just might be a gold digger

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5)     Love does not actually happen online – love can only happen after you meet.  You either click, or you do not. It is the daily interactions and small interpersonal body language signals that are at the root of love. If you meet someone online, they will likely want to meet in person within two to four weeks. You must be cautious on a dating site, but you cannot be overly cautious or you will fail. If you are attracted to someone, so are other people, and you have to compete for their attention. Putting off a face to face meet for too long will doom you to failure.

6)     There is a bit of stigma associated with dating sites. The reputation is that people who use such sites don't have a real life. They are social outcasts, ugly people, and deviants. Nothing is further from the truth. Unfortunately, many people refuse to even try online dating because of these factors.  The reality is that many millions of people have successfully used online dating sites. Because of the anonymous nature of dating sites, you are more likely to be targeted by deviants on facebook, where everyone can see your real name, than on a dating site, where nobody knows your real name or where you live. People are strangely closed mouthed about telling people that they met online, which leads many people who have never used a dating service to assume it is useless, or worse yet, just a scam. This tendency to be closed-mouthed is kind of silly because everyone knows that people who date to have met at some time, so why try to hide it.

7)    Online dating is amazing in it’s ability to connect people who would likely never have met in real life. Since everyone is there for the same reason, and since it is possible to simultaneously be interacting with several people at once, you really do have a much better chance of finding someone that you are truly compatible with for the long term. Online dating is actually the best forum for people to meet when they are just too busy, too tied up, or just not inclined to be wandering around bar hopping or social clubs trying to meet people. Online dating is one of the most modern types of tools for people to use on the internet. It is where the cool guys hang out these days. People like you who are not afraid to try something fairly new, or not quite in the mainstream. No matter if the forum is online dating or bar hopping, when it comes to finding the person of your dreams, you will likely have to kiss a few frogs along the way. So just get out into that real world or Internet marshland and get on with it.


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Online Dating

Gay Dating

 A lot of people seem to think that all gay men are shallow when seeking someone for a permanent relationship with. But is that really true? Sure most of us prefer someone who is healthy as well as physically fit; pretty much everyone wants that, right? In fact sometimes it is hard for people that do not fit that criteria to find a partner. It can be even harder for gay men because they make up a smaller part of the general population. Some gay men are shallow and there's not a lot you can do to change that. My belief is that if they do not like me then they can kiss my not so flabby tush.

As you get older you find that most guys are not as interested in how you look as opposed to your intelligence and brains. But until that day comes you might just have to take what you can get, or try going to the gym once in awhile. Appearance is definitely a big factor, but it is not the only thing in the game of love between young gay men. Most guys do not want to date someone that is fat. Personally for me I have to be very attracted to the person before I even consider about approaching another man, let alone start a relationship with them.  If that makes me shallow, so be it, but I know what I want. 

 Why are a lot of young gay men interested in slim trim athletic types? Guys in general are sexual creatures and want to have sex with good looking guys. This is also true for a lot of young men who are not really interested in a relationship. But with varying 'attractive' criteria in different cultures, it is still possible for chubby men to get action. It really does not matter the reasons why people choose the way they do. There will always be people who behave in this manner when it comes to picking a mate its just who they are.

I know many people in my life that I would not consider dating, but I still like them as friends. I have some good hearted friends that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world, and I met the majority of them via online dating sites. That's right, as a matter of fact most of the guys I have dated in the past few years I have met through internet dating sites. You might think that I am callous because I can see what they look like before I put the moves on them, but it is more than that. Many of them are people that I happened to meet in chat rooms on dating sites and I became interested in them because of what they had to say. I have not dated many of them, but I do consider many of them to be among my circle of friends now. With my busy life style, I do not get a lot of opportunities to just troll bars looking for a lay, so my escape hatch is gay dating sites where I can hang out for a short time talking to people that I have come to know and respect.

I think I am at that cusp in my life where I am transitioning from casual pickups to a long term commitment. I am not quite ready to make the commitment jump yet, but I am thinking that a few longer term relationships might help me get past the fear that I have of being exclusive with just one person. Thats where the online dating comes in, you see when you join an online dating site both you and he know where each other stands so there's no surprises. If you hook up and it turns out that you're not really interested in a particular person but you sense their being a little pushy just move on to the next person, no harm done. The anonymity of a dating site really works to your advantage if you break up with someone that you have been seeing. There is no worry about them bothering you unless you were stupid and gave them your personal contact information already.  The best thing though is that most of the men on dating sites are just like you, and are unlikely to push themselves on someone where the affection is not being returned.

For the most part most men do not care so much what you look like, or how you style your hair or whether or not you work out or not. They just want to find someone compatible. They want someone with the same interests, personality traits. Someone who is  compassionate, caring and giving. A person who stimulates them both intellectually, emotionally and sexually. Someone who will be there in the morning.

So if your looking for love in all the wrong places then join an online dating site to expand your horizons. There are many, many really solid sites out there that are totally committed to helping you find someone special in your life. They have members from all walks of life and countries all looking for someone to share their interest and lives with. So what are you waiting for? Get off your tush, get online and check them out. You won't be disappointed. If nothing else you're sure to make some good friends. The link below is to a site that I found helpful when I was first starting out in the internet dating arena.

http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/gaydating.php