Friday, 23 December 2011
Dating Sites For Seniors
Finding yourself single again after what seems like a life time of marriage and being over 50 can feel like falling down the proverbial well. At least half of women over the age of 60 live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating has certainly changed a lot in the past 30 years or so. It is not that unusual to see grandmothers perusing the offerings in a sex shop. Older men are often so confused that they don't know if they should open a door, pull a chair out, or pay for the whole dinner and movie.
Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, like our perfect eye site, is slowly fading away. Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship. Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. People tend to be a bit more set in their ways and comfortable with their life styles when they are in their 50's and beyond. This makes it much more difficult to find someone compatible than when you are in your more flexible 20's. If you are looking to find someone who just meshes with you and your lifestyle, the odds are severely against you. If you intend to find a new life partner, then you must be prepared to do a few changes. These do not have to be radical, but you do need to do some things differently. Personally, I always hated golf, but I took it up so that I would have a better chance of finding someone – and hey, I grew to like it, so it was not a waste.
First dates with the over 50 crowd are always an interesting experience. You never know what to expect. You will get sophisticated to boorish, and every flavor in between. Most will not go to a second date simply because the chemistry is not right. You will often have to sit through a stressful evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife, ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their hemorrhoids are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.
And its just as discouraging for the men. Men will often talk about women trying to finagle their way into their lives very quickly, and then start to manipulate them to change their life styles to suit the woman's. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.
Why is it that mature people have so many problems finding a compatible mate? Life is purported to be simpler as you age. Too bad they can't say the same for senior dating. What is the cause of this phenomenon? It is not as if we are amateurs in the dating game! We know who we are and what we want. Why should it be so difficult? Could it be we have our standards set too high? I doubt it! Older people want the same things that the younger set are hoping to find in a relationship. They all want:
1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect
Why would that, in any way, be too much to ask for?
After discussing my problems with some of my closest friends. My friends suggested that I try one of the dozens of senior dating sites available online. I shied away from the topic and the idea of a dating site, but after some encouraging information from my friends, and after watching too many late movies by myself, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and looked for senior dating sites. My friends were right! There are dozens if not hundreds of them, my head was spinning.
It was a little confusing for me at first. I started having flashbacks of when I was a kid trying to choose a candy bar at the store. I explained this to my friends and one of them suggested a place to start. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.
She said that is how she met her boyfriend. And all this time I thought she met this wonderful man at work, what a shock. So I gave them a try, it was a cake walk I just entered my profile information, and the site did most of the rest of the work for me. It didn't take long before they had several men that were exactly what I have been looking for. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in years I am actually going out with exciting men and enjoying my self, life does get better with age.
If you are approaching your golden years and you are looking for the person you want to spend the rest of your life with with, then take the first step. Check out the link below and join one or two of the sites. You will never regret it.