Can You Believe This MindSet?

This story originates from my first three years in the working world. I was working in a small town store that sold stereos, television sets, pianos, organs, and appliances. I had been married quite recently and could not afford to do much after work. The staff was quite small, only five people on the upstairs floor and two in the service shop downstairs. The service people seldom interacted with staff socially. The sales staff consisted of myself, my boss, and an experienced sales lady. The other two staff were primarily bookkeepers, but they were involved in taking cash as well as customer credit applications. One of the bookkeepers was in her 70's. She was an aged spinster and the boss kept her employed for sentimental reasons. She had been with the store for 35 years after all. The other bookkeeper was at the other end of the age spectrum. She was barely twenty, and this was her first full time gig since leaving school. (She did a lot of the routine work under the direction of the more senior staff member. She did most of the routine work under the direction of the older lady. The senior person dealt with paying invoices from our wholesalers, and in payment delinquencies from customers. She did most of the details of bookkeeping under the day to day direction of the older lady. To say there was friction between them was an understatement, but that might be another story to tell some day.

The store was closed Sundays back then, so it was tradition every Monday morning to get together and regale each other with what we did on the weekend.  Since I was recently married and cash was tight, my wife and I mostly just hung out with friends. I was told the old lady spent most of her Saturday night and Sunday after church drinking scotch. The other person in sales was a woman in her 50's who spent her weekends with grown children and grandchildren on family activities. The boss never come in until 10:00 AM which is why we were able to shoot the breeze every Monday from 9:00 till 9:30 or so.

Now Cathy, the junior accounting clerk, was in a class of her own. She spent nearly every weekend frequenting the local pubs with her girlfriends. They would move from club to club in a pack looking for fun. Ultimately, they were all looking for the man of their dreams to marry. Because all of the rest of us could only talk about the same stuff we talked about last week, invariably, the conversation on Monday tended to center on Cathy's latest exploits. She had a way of dramatizing the mundane, so if nothing else, her stories were more interesting than – 'I cooked dinner for my family'. She was not ugly, but not exactly the prettiest girl in the world either, so her trials and vexations were many. But from my perspective, her biggest problem was her attitude. This is best typified by the following story.

One particular Monday, Cathy was talking about her Saturday night. She had several single friends that she went around with on her weekly jaunts. She complained that she never got to dance a single dance on Saturday night, and that the whole evening was a bust. She mentioned that this guy had come up to their table just as they got there, and had asked one of her friends to dance and was turned down. He then proceeded to ask each of the other girls, who all turned him down. Over the next hour, she had watched him ask other girls in the club, who all turned him down, so he left. She then laughed at how stupid he was to be so persistent.  I was curious why she thought it was stupid so I asked her.

She said that once one girl at her table had turned him down, if any of them would have said yes, they would have looked like they were picking up the leavings of the first girl who turned him down. Thus losing face I guess. Not sure if I fully understood I asked her to tell me more.  She said that after being turned down by all the women at our table, he then proceeded to ask other women at other tables, and they of course had to turn him down too. When I asked why, she said that they would have been worried about looking needy by picking up someone that someone else had turned down.

In an effort to truly understand what to me was a twisted point of view, I asked her some more questions. I asked her what was wrong with him. Did he look like an ape or something? She said that he was actually quite good looking, and she had been hoping for weeks that he would ask her to dance. So I asked if she knew the reason the first girl had turned him down for if he was such a catch. She said that they had just gotten there, and that that she did not feel like dancing yet. So I asked Cathy if the guy would have asked her first, would she have danced with him. She said of course she would have.  I was struggling now to hold in the laughter as she continued to amaze me with the twists and turns of her strange reasoning.

At this juncture, I summarized my understanding to make sure I had not missed anything. I said, you knew that your friend had turned him down not because she was not interested, but because she was tired. She agreed with that. But he did ask you and you turned him down, and then had a crappy Saturday night because nobody else asked you to dance. She said yes, that's just the way it goes sometimes.

By now, I was feeling that I should show her the errors of her ways, so I asked a few more questions. I asked her to think like a guy for a bit and tell me which of the people she would have approached first if she was a guy. She said she would have asked the girl that he asked first because she was cuter. But then she proceeded to say that the cuter girl did not have as good a personality as she did. So I asked her if she had ever had any sort of discussion with the guy before, and she said she had not. So I asked her how was he ever to know that she had a better personality if she did not talk to him when she had the opportunity. She looked at me like I was mentally deficient or something. She said, “I already told you that I couldn't! Weren't you listening”? I gave up at that point.

A couple of weeks later, I noticed that Cathy was not her usual perky self. I talked to her a bit and got her to open up as to what her problem was. She said that the guy that she had turned down to dance had shown up with a new girlfriend, and said the the girl was not even pretty. I said, too bad you messed up your chance. Once again, she looked at me like I was some neanderthal from the ice age. “I told you I could not say yes to him. How many times do I have to repeat myself!”, she said.  About a year later, Cathy was moping around the office for a couple of months. One of her girlfriends told me that they guy she really liked had married that girl. She never had actually talked to the guy.

I did not stay at that store much longer. I found a much better paying job with a more stable future elsewhere in the city. I stayed on long enough to train my replacement, and would run into him from time to time. He stayed on a decade before leaving as well. When he left, Cathy was still there, still single, and still wandering the bars looking for Mr. Goodbar.

I guess she never changed!


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What Lesbians Are Looking For

 For a lot of lesbians, finding the love of your life can be as easy as googling for lesbian dating sites (or even some more general purpose online dating sites) and creating an accurate profile that is fun and friendly, and then just sit back and read the emails that will start to trickle in for the next few days. Sounds easy right , well it is, but you should also continue taking your own pro-active steps to meet someone. So spend some time reading other profiles online, because not only might you find some really interesting females to connect to, but you could also get some good ideas of things that you could have put in your profile or different ways of phrasing your profile to make it more interesting. If someone's wording or ideas caught your eye, then similar wording or ideas might help your profile catch someone else's eye. A great number oflesbians are often exposed to different types of groups of people as they go about social, work or other events of importance in their lives. Any special event that attracts you will also attract like minded individuals, so you should always be on the lookout for someone with interests compatible to  yours.

 A common mistake that a lot of lesbians make when having their first relationship is rushing into things too quickly. Before you end up waking up next to a person that you barely know. Go out on a few outings first, get to know each other to find out if you have anything in common. You should have some common interests, values and plans for the future that will mesh well. Share things with each other, if you get a new job, if a family member has a baby, a wedding coming up, a commendation you might have gotten, share these things with you partner, you should not only think of them as your lover but also your best friend.

If you are at a family gathering or with friends and someone starts telling gay and lesbian jokes that are in bad taste and insulting to you and your partner, and you see your partner isdisgusted by it, just get up and leave, tell them you came to enjoy yourselves not to listen to a lot of trash about how other people live their lives|One awkward situation would be to find yourselves at a social or family gathering and hear people dissing the gay and lesbian community at large. This will require you to make a stand and let people know that you will not tolerate statements of that nature. Insult them if you have to. If your family and friends are aware of your sexual preference then tell them that you are not at all amused at what was said, and if the attitude persists that you will have to find other people to hang out with. You will love who you want and you don't care what anybody else thinks or says.

Introduce your partner to your friends and family and involve them in everything that you do. This is an important step to establishing and keeping a relationship.

Being one of God's chosen people, at least when it comes to aids, lesbians are just so lucky that their partner fully gets what it takes to satisfy them sexually. When one woman is making love to another woman each just naturally knows which enjoyment buttons to press for each other.  Gay men have a similar advantage, but the aids specter spoils the fun a lot.  Sex is the one area where a lesbian or gay relationship just runs circles around the hetero types.

The lesbian life is the best that there is, so love your life and live it to the max. Live, love and share your life with others, and surround yourself with friends and family who will be there for you in both good times and bad.

 Just remember people are always a little uneasy about things they really don't know a lot about so ensure that you at least surround yourself with friends and family who have a positive attitude to both you, your sexuality, and your situation.  Since you are lesbians, then you will likely be most comfortable with lesbian friends. Open minded heterosexual friends are tough to find, so if you have a few, cherish them and nurture them.

Just remember that after God created Adam and Eve, she realized her mistake and gave Eve a lesbian friend to keep her happy.  Adam was such a domineering sexual schmuck after all.



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Dating Sites For Seniors

Finding yourself single again after what seems like a life time of marriage and being over 50 can feel like falling down the proverbial well. At least half of women over the age of 60 live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating has certainly changed a lot in the past 30 years or so. It is not that unusual to see grandmothers perusing the offerings in a sex shop. Older men are often so confused that they don't know if they should open a door, pull a chair out, or pay for the whole dinner and movie.

Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, like our perfect eye site, is slowly fading away. Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship.  Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. People tend to be a bit more set in their ways and comfortable with their life styles when they are in their 50's and beyond. This makes it much more difficult to find someone compatible than when you are in your more flexible 20's. If you are looking to find someone who just meshes with you and your lifestyle, the odds are severely against you. If you intend to find a new life partner, then you must be prepared to do a few changes. These do not have to be radical, but you do need to do some things differently. Personally, I always hated golf, but I took it up so that I would have a better chance of finding someone – and hey, I grew to like it, so it was not a waste.

First dates with the over 50 crowd are always an interesting experience. You never know what to expect. You will get sophisticated to boorish, and every flavor in between. Most will not go to a second date simply because the chemistry is not right. You will often have to sit through a stressful evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife,  ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their hemorrhoids are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.

And its just as discouraging for the men.  Men will often talk about women trying to finagle their way into their lives very quickly, and then start to manipulate them to change their life styles to suit the woman's. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.

Why is it that mature people have so many problems finding a compatible mate?  Life is purported to be simpler as you age. Too bad they can't say the same for senior dating. What is the cause of this phenomenon? It is not as if we are amateurs in the dating game! We know who we are and what we want. Why should it be so difficult? Could it be we have our standards set too high? I doubt it! Older people want the same things that the younger set are hoping to find in a relationship. They all want:

1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect

Why would that, in any way, be too much to ask for?

After discussing my problems with some of my closest friends. My friends suggested that I try one of the dozens of senior dating sites available online. I shied away from the topic and the idea of a dating site, but after some encouraging information from my friends, and after watching too many late movies by myself, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and looked for senior dating sites. My friends were right! There are dozens if not hundreds of them, my head was spinning.

It was a little confusing for me at first. I started having flashbacks of when I was a kid trying to choose a candy bar at the store. I explained this to my friends and one of them suggested a place to start. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.

She said that is how she met her boyfriend. And all this time I thought she met this wonderful man at work, what a shock. So I gave them a try, it was a cake walk I just entered my profile information, and the site did most of the rest of the work for me. It didn't take long before they had several men that were exactly what I have been looking for. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in years I am actually going out with exciting men and enjoying my self, life does get better with age.

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What To Have For A Sleepover

When you start dating a new woman regularly, eventually you’re going to start sleeping over at her place. At least, you hope you are! Once that starts happening, the smart dater will have a sleepover kit ready at her place at all times. The essentials that I list here can easily fit into a small zipped up bag and stashed in your car. At some point, it should be possible for it to become a permanent fixture at her place. Read, see the wisdom, and get yourself one today!

Something For Your Feet

Your girl may be a wonderful person to be with, but that does not necessarily mean that she is the worlds best housekeeper. On top of that, the floors in her apartment may be freezing in the winter. Pick up some cheapo slippers so you have something to slip on if you have to hit the john in the middle of the night. Nothing is worse than going back to bed with cold feet.

Protection

Better safe than sorry. But also, better adventurous than boring.  Get yourself some of the new fangled rubbers they’ve got out now. Have some laughs with it and mutually decide which ones you both like best. Unlike American Idol, even the losers in this tryout might have a lot of entertainment value!

Warmup Suit

On the same note as the footwear, you want to bring a sweatsuit in your overnight bag. Likely her landlord lowers the temperature at night to save moola. She might only have one little blanket. Long story short, it’s better to have it and not need it, than need it and not have it. Otherwise, you’ll have to borrow one of her shawls.

Toothbrush

This is a no brainer. If you are like me you abhor using someone else's toothbrush, and do not like using another brand of toothpaste either. Buy the travel size toothpaste tube to save room.

Tapers

You just cannot beat the affect that candles have on a woman. Whether you use them over a meal, to watch TV, or in the bedroom, they are a great mood setter! 

Sabrina

This movie is one of the greats for getting a woman into a romantic move. So keep this handy, dandy little gem around for the next time you are not in the mood to go out, the video stores are closed and there is nothing good on the 85 or so cable TV channels available to you. In any event, the content is good, so it bears multiple viewings. It may not be a Bruce Willis shoot-em up movie, but if it gets you shooting your own gun later in the evening, that makes it great content!


Romantic Card

here is a beauty that you probably wish you had thought of before! Get a blank card in the romance section of a card rack; something with a nice picture that signifies a romantic situation. Inside, you have already taped a pre-paid $100 gift card to whatever store she likes. Now draw a big heart or something, and write in a romantic comment like, “On a day like today, I am always reminded how much I love you”. You have to make sure that whatever you write does not have any reference to any particular special occasion or special day. Then some fateful day will surely come when you have forgotten some important anniversary, or birthday or something. You go to your sleepover bag, pull out the card, and give it to her. Presto – your ass is no longer grass! Tell your buddies.

Ear Plugs

Everyone snores sometimes, even hot chicks like the one you are dating. If you cannot sleep, just pull the plugs from your bag and put them on. Just make sure that you never use them when she is trying to talk to you!

Sleep Mask

Some women have bedrooms that face the rising sun, and that fill with light early in the morning. Some women can sleep through this blinding light, but if you can’t you’re prepared. Plus, you or she can wear it if you want to have some kinky sex.

Next Day’s Clothes

An emergency change of clothes is essential as well. I mean, after all, if you do not have spare clothes and something happens, you will have to dress in drag.

Sade Music

Sometimes musical tastes differ, and this is one of the things that makes the world and interesting place to live in. However, when it comes time to play something to enjoy when making love, if her tastes run exclusively to Celine Dion, it can be impossible to concentrate on what you need to. Everyone can get groovy to Sade.

Hardcover Book

It is always good to have some reading material if she has to leave you alone for a while. It prevents you from snooping, and it makes you look smart when she comes back and you’re reading. Stay away from nudie books. Most women hate that. If you can stomach it, try bringing and reading the latest Nicholas Sparks book.


So, there you go. A great idea, easy to make, and invaluable.



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Finding The Male G-Spot

The male orgasm can be a complex experience, the major function of the male orgasm is the release of sperm, however some men do not ejaculate with orgasm. The female orgasm is however still a bit of a debate as to why it happens, some believe it is only to help the sperm along on their journey toward the egg (ovum).

 The majority of men are not at all familiar with their G-spot, some men don't realize that they have one. Most of you will be surprised to learn that the male prostate is in fact the equivalent to the women's G-spot. Not many people are acquainted with this fact. It is also easier to find the male G-spot. For some people it may seem abnormal to probe that area, but if you keep an open mind about it you could experience the best orgasms you could ever hope to have.

FINDING THE MALE G-SPOT

The male G-spot is not that troublesome to locate, however, it does require a bit of trial and error. It is located below the bladder and in front of the rectum. Lying on your back is on of the more comfortable and convenient ways to reach it, so you will most probably need to use a bed or a large couch. The process is less problematic if you have your legs elevated which you can do by having them hang over the back of the sofa or by leaning them against the wall behind the bed. Try putting a pillow under your posterior to make it easier to reach the right spot. For first timers take it slow and use a Vaseline. Then slowly insert a finger into the anus and probe gently, the prostrate gland has been reached when you come across the small lump the size of a chestnut that is roughly about two inches inward.

With your palm facing your partner's scrotum, insert your finger into your partner's anus, be sure your fingernails are not sharp, and be sure not to touch your own genital area with the same finger you used to penetrate your partners anus. Keep in mind that not all men like prostate stimulation just as some women love having their G-Spot massaged and others find it distracting. Once located and properly rubbed it will create an orgasm that is more powerful than they have ever had with regular sex.

Prostate milking as it is also called also enables the man to have multiple orgasms that are longer in duration and gives them the ability to ejaculate without being sexually aroused before hand. It has been noted that the orgasms achieved through prostrate milking can be 4 times more satisfying and can actually last up to five minutes. Male G-spot stimulation produces a full body orgasm.

POINTS TO PONDER
 Before you and your better half start playing with his G-Spot, it is a good idea to get as relaxed as possible. Some people will actually have a nice hot shower before they proceed. Use a finger to find and stimulate the G-spot if unsure or you are a beginner, there are sexual devices you can purchase that can enhance your experience as well. There are also different techniques that can be used. Having your partner perform oral sex while gently manipulating the G-spot is one option.

MISTAKEN BELIEFS

It has often been noted that for a man to stimulate his own G-spot is strange and perverse, which is why it is not done that often. Prostrate manipulation is as normal as having intercourse, it is not something to be hidden, and it is not gay. There is nothing  perverse about enjoying the pleasures of self stimulation. It has the power to create a very dynamic orgasm, and it is entirely normal to experiment with it.


“WARNING”

There are some risks associated with prostate milking if it is not done correctly|. Excessive pressure on the prostate gland can cause several problems such as transferring cancer, blood poisoning, infections, and hemorrhoids. The recommended pressure on the G-spot is comparable to the amount of pressure you would use to rub your eyes with.

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How To Unravel A Date

I was having a lot of trouble getting a date. I mean, even my family tried to set me up with some girls they knew but nothing really came out of it, not even a second date. “Hey” I'm not a bad looking guy and I have a decent job so whats the problem? It appears that I had one bad night and now I'm branded for life in my normal circle of acquaintances.


Here is the sad, and embarrassing story of what happened to me that fateful night.


It all started when I was asked to go to a formal dance with some friends of mine. Since it was formal, I was expected to come in dress pants and a jacket. I had suitable pants fortunately. The jacket was something else again and I had to buy one. I did not have a lot of money, but I was optimistic I would find something. Not being a fashion maven I generally just rely on the opinions and suggestions of the store clerks. I told him that I needed to get a jacket that would go well with the black pants that I had at home. He said I was in luck because they were having a sale on some jackets that they had recently imported from Mexico. The only thing was he forgot to tell me they were yellow and made out of what felt like burlap. They also seemed to be a little big on me but since I didn't have a lot to spend and the price was right I bought one anyway.


I pulled out all the stops that night! Showered, shaved, new aftershave, then I put on my dress pants and new jacket. My dad passed as I finished, winked and said “Nice Duds.” As I looked in the mirror that night after getting ready for my big date, I truly thought that I looked like a million bucks. And I had pulled out all the stops as well. Shower, shave, new haircut, new aftershave, and the new jacket to top it all off. Unfortunately I did not notice that there was a small thread hanging at the back of the jacket.


I arrived at the dance and went inside to meet my buddies who were already there. The place was jam packed. I think every teenager in town was there. My buddies had set this date up with me and she was a bit late. That did not bother me too much because it gave me a chance to hang with my friends and relax a bit. She was pretty cute, and seemed to be in a big hurry to get on the dance floor and strut her stuff. I remember holding her close as she had her arms around my neck. After the first dance, she told me that I had a loose thread on the back of my jacket and said that she would break it off for me.


As she pulled the thread it began to  unravel. She pulled a little more and it began to fall to the floor. They were playing “All Shook Up” by Elvis Presley. It was a new rendition of it and I hardly recognized it as the tune that my dad used to play occasionally. The thread dangling on the floor eventually caught on someone. As it unraveled more quickly, other people were caught in it as well, and the effect snowballed very quickly. Eventually someone tripped, who knocked down someone else, who fell on a table and upset everything. By the time the smoke cleared, three couples were on the floor along with six upset tables. What a disaster! My so called buddies all fled the scene and left me to face the music alone.


The owner of the dance club came up to me and said, “What the hell are you trying to do, sabotage my business?” As I stood there alone wishing I could just crawl under the table and hide, people began to snicker and curse me. The owner quick marched me out of his establishment, and threw the wad of yellow string at me as I exited. There as almost nothing left of the jacket. I threw the wad of string and what was left of the jacket into the nearest dumpster on my way home. I was totally humiliated!


So there you have it, that was my last date with a girl, that my friends hooked me up with. I was in a dating slump. It got to the point I couldn't seem to buy a date. My normal night was sitting at home and licking my wounds. The only plus to this was I was becoming a killer gamer on my computer.


My sister eventually suggested that I try an online dating site. She said I would probably find someone who hasn't heard of my jacket fiasco. A dating site seemed like a good idea, so I decided to give it a try. I picked one at random, but had no luck. So I googled dating, and was overwhelmed at the number of sites. Which one would be the best for me. I tried the top site POF.com – stands for plenty of fish, but I did not have much luck on it.  My sister came to my rescue again and suggested the link that I will share below. It has a big list of quality dating sites to choose from. I signed up to a couple of sites, and finally met someone who can take me for who I am, and not the idiot who bought a cheap jacket once.


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