In Victorian times, many adult women did not have orgasms. In actuality, a lot of them had no idea what an orgasm was. Many women were raised with no sexual instruction, and sometimes with negative messages about their bodies, and their sexuality. A twin study done in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and only one in ten always orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.
Now the question is how do we change all this, especially since almost all modern women desire orgasms. Lets start by defining a female orgasm. An orgasm in women is much like what men experience-there is a peak of sexual excitement, in a moment of intense pleasure, and a pulsing, twitchy sensation that extends throughout the body. Rythmiccontractions take place within the pelvic area including the walls of the vagina. Another difference here is that women don't experience a refractory period, and will usually be able to have many more orgasms with ongoing coital stimulation, often within a minute or two. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm. This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.
With the help of a skilled lover, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they so desire.
Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:
1) They 2)A situation charged with romance
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Being at ease
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy
You will unlikely simulate your female partner to orgasm without most of the previous conditions being met.
Men need to know that women generally have several variations of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is a woman's main sexual pleasure point and can be stimulated orally or with the fingers. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and climaxes in uterus contractions . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is a little harder to find: it is located on the upper side of the vagina – about one half way in. In most women the G-spot is about 3 inches into the vagina, and on the top side. Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet. It is a softer area that is about one half centimeter in size. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman. When located, and stimulated, the G spot can result in an orgasm within the vaginal walls.
Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:
In summation, an orgasm is something very sensual that will provide both partners with incredible feelings of pleasure. The next list is a summary that can help both of you have orgasms regularly:
1) 2)Be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Use your tongue and lips to stimulate and gently suckle her breasts
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Talk to your partner, find out what she likes
6) Women like you to tease them sexually – touch and withdraw many times. This will intensify the orgasm and the pleasure for both of you.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Do not push to try new things – experimentation must be mutual or else it will cause you to lose the moment
Men should read and practice the techniques in this guide, because more female orgasms are the keys to the kingdom of much more sex.
If you are an unsatisfied woman – persuade your partner to read this article, after all, your entire future is at stake!
Good Luck!
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When you’re out there on the dating scene and you manage to find someone with whom you hit it off, the first few dates are crucial. At issue are the sometime conflicting needs of being yourself, thus setting a realistic expectation that you can live up to, while at the same time trying to sell yourself as an already successful person, which may not be 100% true. Adding to your problem is the fact that many of the most popular initial dating venues have some hidden pitfalls that can kill a budding relationship before it has a chance to get off the ground! To help you all out, I’ve outlined a few potential problems that can arise during some common dates. In this way, you can avoid behaviour that will kill whatever it is that you hope to happen.
Mini-Putt
At first, this might seem like a safe date idea. What could go wrong? You’ve got an easy evening of walking through a few mini putt holes, right? Wrong! Even this cosy environment can have its dangers.
Whatever you do, do not compete with her, even jokingly!! Ensure that you up the fun quotient a lot! If you get trapped into a competition, you will lose, even if you win at getting the ball in the hole, you will never get a chance at the nineteenth hole as it were. And keep your jokes about long stiff putters, tiny holes and big balls to yourself!
Playing with Frisbees
Throwing Frisbees with your new love when on a picnic can be a lot of fun. There are some things you have to remember though. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!
On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. Before you know it, your disc will have flown out to sea, or hit some quick-tempered jerk’s radio. Then you have a fight on your hands. It is a much better choice to pick a secluded clearing in a park or in some wilderness area for such activity. On top of that, even though there are hot beach bunnies for you to look at, the beach is also full of eye candy for your honey to admire. Who needs distractions like that. Better to pick a venue where both of you can focus on each other.
Going To See A Film
Movies are popular dates for a reason. If you choose the right movie and the right snacks, you get your date in the romantic mood. One real advantage of a movie theatre is the expectation that you remain quiet. This is a great because you can hold hands without having to hold up your end of the conversation. Paying some attention to the movie will give you a natural springboard for the rest of the evening's conversation. Make sure you dodge the following traps.
First thing that you don’t want to take you by surprise is how expensive movies have become. Make sure you have at least a lot of dollars in your pocket, because you will likely have spent most of that between admission and snacks. Plan to spend at least forty to fifty bucks. More if it’s IMAX.
Second, the choice of movie is all important. Make sure you reserve your tickets online or by phone. Also, make sure that it does not have some hot leading man doffing his clothes (or at least baring his chest). You will be unlikely to score well that evening if she is still fixating on the washboard abs and rippling muscles of some Hollywood hunk.
Third, make sure the movie is one that will turn her on, romantically. Light comic movies are second best. Even a movie like meatballs has a romantic ending. So even the right comedy movie can end on a decent tone. Avoid depressing film noir type of shows. Way too depressing and that will lead to a no-nooky evening!
A Night Of Music
First and foremost, make sure that the music is something that she likes. Going to see Michael Buble might be something you hate, but if she is into his music, then grin and bear it. Choose what she likes. One of your most important roles on a date is to keep her safe. If you go to a venue where there are likely be be a lot of obnoxious drunks, try to keep a low profile. Better yet, avoid such places!
On another note, if you have been to a loud performance, both of you will be slightly deaf afterwards. So make sure what you think she said is, in fact, what she said. You don’t want to assume she said “I want sex” if she said “separate checks”.
Also remember that if you have been to an outside concert on a hot night, you will be sweaty and stinky – make sure you have some deodorant secreted away within easy reach!
Midway Rides
It would seem like bringing a woman to the amusement park would have all sorts of benefits. The best rides of course are the ones where she grabs you, either in fear, or just to keep from falling. It is a great venue for fun rides, challenging games, and eating sweet treats and street meat. Accidentally winning a stuffed toy has a side benefit giving her a reminder of your time together that day. Never brag you to your girl that you will win her a stuffed toy. Carnival operators have the games rigged significantly in their favour, so it is much cheaper to buy her one at WalMart. It is a lot of fun to try, but no promises. Besides going broke, too much time spent on one activity that only you are doing is no fun and liable to put a damper on the rest of your evening.
Be wary of the food as well. The food may taste good at the time, but eat sparingly. Who knows how sanitary the facilities are that produced it. As well, the possibility of someone vomiting as they get off a ride is a mental picture that will fizzle any kissing possibilities.
One last thing. Many rides take pictures of you at the scariest point. Figure out where that is before you get on the ride and try to look nonchalant at that point. After all, you may want to by the picture later.
A Night of Video Games At An Arcade
Even if your date is not into gaming, the both of you can still have fun with it. But as with many women these days, do not be surprised if she cleans your clock. So that means you cannot brag before hand about how great you are. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.
Starbucks
Often considered to be the safest first date, this is not without it's own pitfalls. If the date is going well, there is a good chance that you will linger over several cups of Joe. As the caffeine builds, you will get the jitters, become a motor mouth, and in general start to turn her off! Have a cup of warm water with lemon in between cups of coffee. It’ll dilute the caffeine, and make you look chic.
As Forest Gump would say, "That is about all I have to say about that". If there is a date I missed, the trick is just to think ahead. Go through the whole date in your mind, and anticipate what could go wrong. Have solutions ready to go if the worst does happen. You’ll look like you’re a together sort of fellow, and that can only help your chances at getting her to actually say “I want sex”, and not “separate checks”.
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First Dates are always problematic. After all, your choice here is giving your new special someone some significant clues as to who and what you really are. Will you look cheap? Will you look like you are trying to impress her by spending too much money? The choice of date and venue really does say a lot about you, and you can bet your bottom dollar that the girl you are taking out is analyzing every bit of it like a dog chewing at a bone!.
The worst thing about a movie date can also be it's best thing. It is hard to talk during a movie. In fact it is frowned upon. So that is bad. On the other hand, it gives you both a chance to get used to being around each other without a lot of pressure on anyone's part to keep the conversation flowing. So that is good. The movie itself will help to stimulate conversation after the movie is over, and give you something to do before you take her home. The worse the movie is, the better, in a way, because you can both mock it into the wee hours of the night.
Once you are at the movie, your next problem is what to buy for treats. A movie stalwart is popcorn, but is that the best choice? It has the advantage of being inexpensive, but the disadvantage is the propensity for it to stick in your teeth. Also, if your date wears dentures, then popcorn is a no-no. Consider chocolate candy like M&M's. Most women and most men like chocolate. For drinks, try to stay away from anything that is gassy or fizzy like soda pop because they will make you belch and that is not going to leave a favourable lasting impression. Most theatres will offer various types of non-carbonated beverages. One favourite is iced tea. No matter what your final decision is, remember that if you intend to also go out after the movie, then you might want to limit your eating while at the theatre.
Good Movies
Even within a genre, there are good and bad choices. You are looking for something that mixes romance into the plot line, so selection is important. Hopefully you are taking her to a Cineplex type of theatre that gives you a lot of on the spot choices. This means that before the date, you should have done some research into what movies are playing at the venue where you are taking her. Be prepared!
Three examples of good first date movies would have been:
1. Comedy –Any Bill Murray comedy – get her laughing! If she’s having a good time and smiling, you’ll have a good chance at holding hands.
2. Drama – Some of the Victor Hugo classics like Les Miserables, The Hunchback of Notre Dame, or Tale of Two Cities. I do not know how he does it, but the movies always seem to have an optimistic and upbeat ending, even while the subject matter is based on tragedy and misery by and large.
3. Romance – Any Disney romance is good.
That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:
Bad Movies
Stay away from anything where someone dies at the end (unless of course the person that dies is the villain)! These would be examples of BAD choices:
1. Holocaust Movies – The Diary of Anne Frank would be horrible for a first date.
2. Sob Stories – Brian's Song – great movie – sucks for a first date though.
3. Adventure Movies – Conan – Don’t go to any movie where the main actor is shirtless and muscular. Otherwise, you’re risking a comparison where you will not come out on top.
Stay away from Erotica or Porn! These are just too over the top for a first date and will surely be relationship ending.
Good Luck and have fun!
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